…in my writing, of course, silly. I’m not related to Representative Weiner.
Please visit me at Richard Mabry’s Random Jottings. Richard and I met years ago at an American Christian Fiction Writers conference as we were both going to be Abingdon authors.
He has dreadful taste in football teams (he lives in Texas-enough said), but he’s still delightful. And, he invited me to guest post and be brutally honest. So, you have to admire the man!
See you there..
Last week I posted about June being National Rebuild Your Life month, and asked what five things you would do to rebuild your life…
I didn’t receive comments to the post, so I’m assuming all my readers were out sawing and hammering and nailing their lives. Right?
I did say, though, I would return and state five things I would do to rebuild my life. And, so, here I am.
Of course, my first reaction is to be clever…you know, say things like: liposuction, Botox, move to Maui…because that way I don’t have to dig deep to hit the rocks of the real issues. I learned a long time ago that I use humor as my deflect, but that’s another blog post.
At the beginning of this year, I read a blog about a word for the year, one that you thought God might be nudging you with (and I’m sorry I don’t remember whose blog talked about doing that). The word that crept into my consciousness: INTENTIONAL.
It surprised me because I generally connect that word with negatives, for example: intentional harm, intentional disrespect, intentional eating of Blue Bell…
But to reconstruct that in a positive…now that requires a shift in my decisions, my actions, my words. To rebuild a life is an intentional act, so I can–intentionally–
1. Nail my frustrations to the walls of understanding.
2. Put a foundation under my dreams by setting concrete goals.
3. Find shelter under the roof of acceptance and love from others.
4. Paint a different picture when I am tempted to judge.
5. Cement God’s words in my heart.
Want to share yours?
The default explanatory cause for almost everyone who is dysfunctional, underachieving, overbearing, and possibly homicidal and maniacal?
Their parents.
And now, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi and his wife Linda have added homosexuality to the list. Yes. If your son is gay, according to the good doctor, it’s your fault. Definitely your fault because, he says, “. . .there is no such thing as a ‘gay child’ or a ‘gay teen.’ We are all designed to be heterosexual.”
[An aside here: No mention of lesbians in this review of the Nicolosis' book, A Parent's Guide to Preventing Homosexuality by Chuck Colson. Perhaps women do not experience the "gender wounds" and "gender emptiness" that are apparently toxic to boys. Personally, I find this omission by Colson in his post to be woefully discriminating and potentially gender wounding.]
Confirming to the parents that their Barbie-doll-color-pink-ballerina loving son, age 5, is a pre-homosexual, Nicolosi tells them that without intervention, little
Stevie has a 75% chance of being homosexual, bisexual or transgender. (I also found out, on my own, that in 75% of American households, women manage the money and pay the bills. So, does that mean 25% of straight men don’t pay their bills?)
Colson credited Nicolosi with saying, “Such a boy will…retreat from the challenge of identifying with his dad and the masculinity he represents…Instead of incorporating a masculine sense of self, the prehomosexual boy is doing just the opposite — rejecting his emerging maleness and thus developing a defensive position against it.” Wait…can a child be preheterosexual?
Ready for the cure?
“Early intervention, in which the boy’s father learns how to be both strong and caring, will interrupt an unhealthy mother-son bond.”
See…simple. Man up those weak fathers, keep mom in the kitchen and away from her son. Voila. No more gay men.
And this from seemingly educated people. Chuck, of course, hit that little speedbump called Watergate, but served his time, became a Christian, and went to prison (not sure of the timeline here).
The reason we want to know the why of something is so we can fix it, make it better, make it go away. Only those people who persist finding a “cure” for homosexuality care more about the why than the who.
And if all this isn’t amusement enough, I went to Amazon to read about the Nicolosis’ book. Of the 110 reviews, 51 are one-star and 46 are five-star. A majority of the reviewers bestowing five stars don’t provide links, and most have one review–of that one book. My favorite though, was someone who awarded the book five stars had also reviewed–wait for it–mouse glue traps, boat covers, shock pumps, key sets, and a tool and tire bag. Ah, yes, certainly an authority.
I’m waiting for the bottle vs. breast discussion as it relates to being gay, and eventually the anti-gay pill.
In the meantime, you may want to read Dr. Warren Throckmorton’s answer to the Colson article. As for me, I’m going to pray that the Nicolosis don’t proclaim themselves arbiters of weakness in fathers and the healthiness of mother-son bonds.
