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June 29, 2008

Keeping His Pants On Until He Gets Home

Filed under: Writing and Wreading — Christa Allan @ 5:30 pm

Since I renamed my blog Fictionary after Natalie Jost designed this site, almost all of my blog tours, author interviews, and book reviews can be found there. A few exceptions-like yesterday’s My Beautiful Mommy (my subtitle: after she’s had her nose fixed, tummy tucked, and boobs lifted) which I presented here as social commentary.

Today, however, I’m crossing over because the book by Joyce Oglesby posted on Fictionary is so wonderfully radical and refreshingly honest, that I don’t want anyone who reads this to miss it. After all, who could resist a book with the title Keeping His Pants On Until He Gets Home?

And knowing that Joyce is a mom, grandmother, and a minister’s wife makes it all the more appealing.

The same age as Joyce, I’m thrilled she’s acknowledging that Christianity is not synonymous with boring sex:

“Your creative and unrelenting attention to him is your best hope of immunity to unfaithfulness or to a humdrum sex life.  Explore with me the urgency to revisit the time when your heart burned for his touch and you longed for the excitement of sexual surrender. You will become empowered as your emotional and sexual desires are satisfied and you discover rich depths of love that strengthen your relationship. We’ll learn why and how to preserve intimacy in your marriage, and you won’t have to worry about where his pants land when they come off. They’ll be at your feet!”

And then there’s this cover……………………..so cruise over to FICTIONARY and read the rest!

The laughs start with the
title, continue through the
poem in chapter one
(worth the price of the
book) and last all the way
through to the final
chapter. And while she
has you laughing, she
provides honest, practical
advice. Two thumps up!
If I were all thumbs,
I’d give it ten!”

James Watkins, Author
Sex is Not a Four-Letter Word

and, yes, she’s writing a book for men about their wives!


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June 28, 2008

My mommy’s prettier than yours. She’s got the surgery to prove it.

Filed under: Random Rumblings, Writing and Wreading — Christa Allan @ 1:59 am

My Beautiful Mommy book front cover

Wait, Christa, isn’t your other blog, FICTIONARY, for book reviews (a bit of shameless self-promotion)?

Yes.

Surely My Beautiful Mommy is a sweet children’s book that you’ll be promoting there, right?

Wrong.

I discovered this book when Tanya Dennis wrote about it on her blog, which I read on High Calling Blogs. I bookmarked this site weeks ago, fully intending to write about it, but I couldn’t keep my blood pressure in check long enough to finish the post. So, if this drops off mid-sentence, would someone Twitter 911…someone on there has to be a doctor.

Speaking of doctors, this book was written and self-published by Dr. Michael Salzhauer, a board certified plastic surgeon who specializes in cosmetic surgery in Bal Harbour, Florida. According to the bio on the site, Dr. Salzhauer’s performed “hundreds of beautiful ‘mommymakeovers’ during his career.”

He wrote the book, the site states, because as a father he knows that to communicate effectively with children, quality informational books are important. On that the doc and I agree. Any book written for an audience of children ages 4-8 that attempts to calm their fears about mommy having surgery would be worthwhile.

My objection is not to the intent of the book; it’s the subtext. And the text. This from an ABC  News story:

“Why are you going to look different?” asks the daughter of her mother in the car ride back from the doctor’s office. (The doctor must practice what he preaches because he’s wrestler-buff. I fear his dialogue, however, may have unintentionally reinforced a stereotype. He tells the girl and her mother: “Blah, blah, blah. Tummy. Blah, blah, blah. Nose.”  This, Dr. S. said, is purposely vague because he didn’t want to go into graphic detail about the surgery. Uh huh.)

“Not just different, my dear — prettier!” exclaims the mother.

When prodded by her daughter as to why she’s getting an operation — after all, the girl says, she’s already “the prettiest mommy in the whole wide world” — the mom explains how her clothes don’t fit properly anymore because of her stretched out stomach, presumably a result of childbirth.

By the end of the story, the mother’s formerly wrinkled tummy and crooked nose are flat and straight and, despite never saying anything about her chest in the plot, the mother’s breasts appear perkier too.

And they all looked beautiful ever after.

Now, the truth is, Dr. S. isn’t drugging women on the streets of Bal Harbour and dragging them into his office for these procedures. I doubt this book’s revenue or lack thereof will even be a hiccup on the radar screen of his net worth.

And, as long as we’re all about truth here. . .a bit of self-disclosure so I’m not labeled by those who know as a hypocrite. After birthing five children, weighing in at 8.4 pounds, 8.12 pounds, 12.5 pounds (twins) and 9.15 pounds, I could fold the skin on my tummy like an envelope and tuck it into my pantyhose. My muscles were so shredded, they just staged a protest and pretended to be hammocks. My doctor suggested an abdominoplasty (tummy tuck) that would serve to tighten the muscles and get rid of the stretched out skin.Oh, I was already scheduled for a hysterectomy. As she said, “We’re going to be in the neighborhood anyway. . .”

That was twenty years ago, and I still have the hip bone to hip bone scar. Was it worth it? Well, yes. Did I absolutely need it? Well, no. I could have allowed my back muscles to try to take over what the tummy muscles wouldn’t do and continue having back pain, and just make peace with what looked like a chicken hanging from my belly button.

So, I totally buy into the mommy’s stretched out skin issues. But the “cosmetic” aspect of a tummy tuck-at least for me-isn’t something all the world sees.

As the mother of daughters, Grammy of granddaughters, teacher of girls, what bothers me is the notion of making mommy “prettier” and the message that sends. The subtext is Mommy’s not quite happy with her body parts because they’re bulging (except for the breast implants) between her and prettier. And, the surgery isn’t explained as being to make mommie healthier or stronger.

The book was timed to hit bookstores on Mother’s Day, which gives me cause to wonder exactly what’s available in gift cards these days.

Not one of my children after my surgery remarked that my tummy was flatter. And I wonder what five-year-old is going to notice mommy changed bra sizes? Dr. S suggested the book answers children’s questions, but it seems to generate more questions than it answers.

Ultimately, My Beautiful Mommy is more an indictment of what society values. Salzhauer’s book, I hope, does serve to decrease children’s fear more than their self-esteem.

Should we expect My Buff Daddy anytime soon?


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June 27, 2008

oops!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christa Allan @ 1:46 pm

A dear friend just brought to my attention a rather disturbing problem with the post about subscribing to my blog.

Apparently, if you clicked the button on the post, it brought you to a site with a band name that would be, well, icky.

So, I apologize if you were one of those victims. Button erased.

Lesson learned: Be careful what you use from Google images.


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Free book offer from Oprah

Filed under: Writing and Wreading — Christa Allan @ 7:54 am

This offer expires at 8:00 pm Eastern time TODAY.  Women & Money: Owning the Power to Control Your Destiny

Go HERE for the link to find the free download of Suze Orman’s new book: Women & Money.


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Why some artists don’t translate well to video

Filed under: Random Rumblings — Christa Allan @ 12:41 am

I’ll totally own loving Joe Cocker, probably because I heard him before I’d actually seen him perform.

This is clever and funny. enjoy.

thanks to Fritinancy for this one!


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June 26, 2008

SUBSCRIBE TO MY WEBSITE CONTEST!

Filed under: Random Rumblings — Christa Allan @ 4:31 pm

See that box on this page to your right? Fill in your email address, and at the end of this month I’ll pick a name, and you’ll be the winner!!! [Not that you already aren't a winner because, after all, you're reading this.]

And what will you win?

Why, a box of books, of course! And my everlasting appreciation, which is priceless.

And, if you’ve already subscribed, you’re already entered.


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Dr. Horrible’s Sing-Along Blog

Filed under: Random Rumblings — Christa Allan @ 6:59 am

more about “Teaser on Vimeo“, posted with vodpod
If you’re a Buffy/Angel/Spike/Firefly fan….here’s Joss Whedon’s latest. Dr. Horrible seems to be his new prescription for laughter.
Thanks to ARGH INK, Jennifer Cruise’s blog for the heads up.

“It’s the story of a low-rent super-villain, the hero who keeps beating him up, and the cute girl from the laundromat he’s too shy to talk to.”


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June 25, 2008

TOTALLY FREE+TOTALLY GOOGLE=TOTALLY AWESOME

Filed under: Random Rumblings — Christa Allan @ 1:17 pm

1-800-GOOG-411: Google’s 411 service


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WORD GAME WEDNESDAY

Filed under: Uncategorized — Christa Allan @ 1:00 am

Use your compass directions to find the correct locations for the missing letters of the alphabet. When you have completed the grid, see if you can discover the hidden city, country, river or mountain.
Note:
North or south means any location along the same column.
East or west means any location along the same row.
Directions:
A is south of L: D is west of W
E is east of C: G is south of W
B is west of W and north of H
F is north of Z and west of R
H is east of T and west of Y
I is north of U and east of C
L is north of F: P is east of Z
M is east of J: O is west of N
N is south of C and east of Z
Q is north of J: R is south of C
S is east of R: U is west of J
V is west of J and north of N
X is north of U
Y is south of W and east of N


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June 24, 2008

AP English Lang Scoring Guidelines Part Two: Internalizing and Making every bubble count

Filed under: ej-oo-key-shuhn — Christa Allan @ 1:48 am

Internalizing the Scoring Guide

My first year as an AP Reader, I’d hear this “internalizing” mumbo-jumbo and wonder when I’d evolve into this higher state of consciousness. I think I was mostly unconscious. Year Two, I would’ve been willing to roll the scoring guide into a paper burrito and eat it if it meant I’d expedite the internalizing. By Year Three, I was on the verge of internalizing, but often kicked myself right out of it by not trusting the process.This year, I experienced extended bouts of scoring guide internalization nirvana. But, it’s like a skittish cat. You can’t acknowledge that you’re aware of it because it will run out faster than gas in your tank.

After a few days of discussing the scoring guide, reading and scoring sample essays, you begin to read with a focused sense of upper and lower range papers and the shades of differences. In fact, initally, I didn’t understand why we were directed to not labor over each paper by reading it three or more times. What I learned was the very thing I’d been teaching my own students for years…trust yourself. . .read it once, twice at most. This is not the same as scanning or reading carelessly or haphazardly.

Eventually, as a reader, you learn to zero in on what will move the essay up the scoring guide food chain. This is what makes those illegible papers so frustrating. It’s difficult, sometimes impossible, to develop a sense of the paper and the writer’s intent when stopping to decode words.

Scoring Guide Guidelines

Readers are directed to remember the time constraints under which students are writing; papers aren’t to be evaluated as if they were out-of-class assignments. The essays are to be considered drafts, and students are to be rewarded for what they do well.

One of the first considerations when reading an essay is to determine if it’s a lower or upper range essay.

Lower range essays:

4 Inadequate

3 a diminished 4

2 Little Success

1 a diminished 2

In the lower range, it’s important to keep in mind that a 3 is NOT an improved 2. Here’s why: a 2 is labeled as having little success because it does one or more of the following:

  • misunderstands the prompt
  • fails to analyze the strategies used to characterize, in this prompt, scientific research
  • substitutes a simpler task by responding to the prompt tangentially with unrelated, inaccurate, or inappropriate explanation

So, to score a paper a 1, it must meet the criteria for a 2, but is especially undeveloped, simplistic, or weak. Generally, papers in these ranges paraphrase, discuss generic issues about scientific research, misunderstand entirely what the author is expressing, and/or contain no analysis.

Here’s the kicker…any evidence of analysis can lift the paper to a 3. That’s why we read all the way through. If there’s a sentence of analysis, I can move the paper from a 2 to a 3. Granted, for a student who’s scoring in these ranges, that might not be all that significant a bump. But, if you’re one of those kids who ran out of time and your other two essays are upper range, this one point difference could be important.

An inadequate paper (a 4) does analyze, but it does so in a limited way, and generally, though the writer’s ideas are understood, the prose reflects immature control. These papers are consistent in their attempt at analysis. Analysis, for our purposes in scoring, is defined as: 1) identifying text features, and 2) explaining how those features mentioned in #1 serve to achieve the writer’s purpose, create an effect. If the paper is less successful and has less control of writing, then it’s a 3.

Moving to the upper range essays:

6 Adequate

7 an enhanced 6

8 Effective

9 an enhanced 8

In the upper range, it’s important to remember that a 7 is NOT a diminished 8, nor is an 8 an improved 7.

An adequate paper (a 6) reflects an overall understanding of the prompt and demonstrates analysis with relatively clear writing. If the paper is more extensive or complete in elaboration, with a more mature writing, it can be bumped to a 7.

Papers that effectively analyze, reflect strong organization, specific elaboration, and-while not without flaws-reflect a mature control of writing are scored as 8s. The writer’s voice is evident in these papers. A 9 is all of the above on steroids. It’s controlled, organized, well-developed, sophisticated, exhibits and maintains a control of language. When it’s a 9, you know it. And though I may be sitting mute in the chair, every time I read a 9, I’m doing the happy dance inside and cheering that kid on because it’s a glorious piece to read.

Now, some of you should have been looking under your keyboards by now wondering what happened to the 5. Oh, yes, the 5…which, oddly enough, is not the between of a 4 and a 6. A 5 is NOT an enhanced 4, not is it a diminished 6.  A 5 must contain analysis, but the explanations are uneven, inconsistent, or limited. Generally, these papers fail to carry the analysis throughout the essay. While they may contain lapses in clarity, a 5 needs to effectively convey the writer’s ideas. It’s one of those papers that I define as having “moments” of effective analysis. You know, the paper you’re rocking along with, then it suddenly plummets into generalizations, then perks up a bit, then swerves off slightly…roller coasterish.

I do hope this post didn’t propel you into a trance that now has you drooling on your monitors. Tomorrow, I’ll post a formula for how score calculations are made, which may serve to remind you why you majored in English.


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